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Define it or we’re on to the next one who will…

14 Mar

So in life, I’ve learnt two things. There are things you can control and there those things you can’t control. What I mean is, we have planned out a course in life. I believe we decide what path we want to go for regardless of where you are and what you do. I on the other feel like life has a wonderful way of making us reach our destiny. Take for example, I woke up today and planned that I would be in Grand Rapids, MI by 4.35pm, but God planned something different. The pilot announced after we boarded the plane that there was a “maintenance” problem. I was so pissed off and angry. So they ended up cancelling our flight, in the process I made a friend. We had so much in common, I was shocked as to “where have you been all my life”.  After the airline wasting “7 hours” of my life. I decided to whoo sahh and look at it positively. Contacted my “zen” which is my positive energy and relaxed. After a wonderful weekend in Dallas, TX I wasn’t about to let some airline spoil. I’m not mentioning names at the moment because I’m bigger than that. Thing is, I spent 3 hours with my new friend (it’s a girl BTW) so stop putting thoughts in your head.  She has a crazy life and crazy schedule. She procrastinates on time. She’s always late for class, late for almost everything. For grammar purposes, I’m going to call my friend “Lisa”. Lisa is twenty-seven years old, lives in the city and over time I got to find more than I asked.

I found out something about women and our men. In relationships, we generally have to define what it is. I don’t know what kind of relationship you’re in currently but you have to define whether your going out. Is he your boyfriend? Should we take it to the next step? Where do we go from here? All these questions popped up in my brain and I was like, we need to sort this pending issue out.  So many women are in relationships/ friendships and you don’t know what it is. Is he my guy? Is he my good friend bed buddy? Is he my bed buddy?

You spend time with this person everyday or most of the time and you haven’t gotten a sign whether he’s your man or not, I say all this because you could find yourself five years down the lane with someone waiting for him to pop the question and he still isn’t showing any signs of doing it. Point in case, if you love her; put a ring on it because someone else will  (like beyonce said). I ‘m pro  woman so I don’t want you to make the mistake of staying with someone who isn’t ready to define what it is. And if you’re in a “good friend bed buddy” situation, have fun while it lasts because at one point you’ll still have to define it whether or not you like it. That is if your “bed buddy” situation lasts. I on the other hand have decided to sort of define where I am in my relationship. So many things are happening in my life. Great things are about to happen this year, so watch out world. I’m coming.!!

Have a blessed week.